efforts of the man himself, but that the wives of others are more easily got at by the aid of female
messengers than by the personal efforts of the man. But we lays it down that whenever it is
possible a man should always act himself in these matters, and it is only when such is
impracticable, or impossible, that female messengers should be employed. As for the saying that
women who act and talk boldly and freely are to be won by the personal efforts of the man, and
that women who do not possess those qualities are to be got at by female messengers, it is only
a matter of talk. Now when a man acts himself in the matter he should first of all make the
acquaintance of the woman he loves in the following manner:
He should arrange to be seen by the woman either on a natural or special opportunity. A natural
opportunity is when one of them goes to the house of the other, and a special opportunity is when
they meet either at the house of a friend, or a caste-fellow, or a minister, or a physician, as also
on the occasion of marriage ceremonies, sacrifices, festivals, funerals, and garden parties.
When they do meet, the man should be careful to look at her in such a way as to cause the state
of his mind to be made known to her; he should pull about his moustache, make a sound with his
nails, cause his own ornaments to tinkle, bite his lower lip, and make various other signs of that
description. When she is looking at him he should speak to his friends about her and other
women, and should show to her his liberality and his appreciation of enjoyments. When sitting by
the side of a female friend he should yawn and twist his body, contract his eyebrows, speak very
slowly as if he was weary, and listen to her indifferently. A conversation having two meanings
should also be carried on with a child or some other person, apparently having regard to a third
person, but really having reference to the woman he loves, and in this way his love should be
made manifest under the pretext of referring to others rather than to herself. He should make
marks that have reference to her, on the earth with his nails, or with a stick, and should embrace
and kiss a child in her presence, and press its chin with his fingers in a caressing way. All these
things should be done at the proper time and in proper places. The man should fondle a child that
may be sitting on her lap, and give it something to play with, and also take the same back again.
Conversation with respect to the child may also be held with her, and in this manner he should
gradually become well acquainted with her, and he should also make himself agreeable to her
relations. Afterwards, this acquaintance should be made a pretext for visiting her house
frequently, and on such occasions he should converse on the subject of love in her absence but
within her hearing. As his intimacy with her increases he should place in her charge some kind of
deposit or trust, and take away from it a small portion at a time; or he may give her some fragrant
substance to be kept for him by her. After this he should endeavour to make her well acquainted
with his own wife, and get them to carry on confidential conversations, and to sit together in lonely
places. In order to see her frequently he should arrange so that the same goldsmith, the same
jeweller, the same basket maker, the same dyer, and the same washerman should be employed
by the two families. And he should also pay her long visits openly under the pretence of being
engaged with her on business, and one business should lead to another, so as to keep up the
intercourse between them. Whenever she wants anything, or is in need of money, or wishes to
acquire skill in one of the arts, he should cause her to understand that he is willing and able to do
anything that she wants, to give her money, or teach her one of the arts, all these things being
quite within his ability and power. In the same way he should hold discussions with her in
company with other people, and they should talk of the doings and sayings of other persons, and
examine different things, like jewellery, precious stones, etc. On such occasions he should show
her certain things with the values of which she may be unacquainted, and if she begins to dispute
with him about the things or their value, he should not contradict her, but point out that he agrees
with her in every way.
Thus end the ways of making the acquaintance of woman desired.
Now after a girl has become acquainted with the man as above described, and has manifested
her love to him by the various outward signs and by the motions of her body, the man should
make every effort to gain her over. But as girls are not acquainted with sexual union, they should
be treated with the greatest delicacy, and the man should proceed with considerable caution,
though in the case of other women, accustomed to sexual intercourse, this is not necessary.
When the intentions of the girl are known, and her bashfulness put aside, the man should begin
to make use of her money, and an interchange of clothes, flowers should be made. In this the
man should take particular care that the things given by him are handsome and valuable. and
when he is going to a party he should ask for the flower in her hair, or for the flower in her hand. If
he himself gives her a flower it should be a sweet smelling one, and marked with marks made by
his nails or teeth. With increasing assiduity he should dispel her fears, and by degrees get her to
go with him to some lonely place, and there he should embrace and kiss her. And finally at the
time of giving her something fragrant, or of receiving the same from her, or at the time of making
an exchange of flowers, he should touch and press her private parts, thus bringing his efforts to a
satisfactory conclusion.
When a man is endeavouring to seduce one woman, he should not attempt to seduce any other
at the same time. But after he has succeeded with the first, and enjoyed her for a considerable
time, he can keep her affections by giving her presents that she likes, and then commence
making up to another woman. When a man sees the husband of a woman going to some place
near his house, he should not enjoy the woman then, even though she may be easily gained over
at that time. A wise man having a regard for his reputation should not think of seducing a
woman who is apprehensive, timid, not to be trusted, well guarded, or possessed of a
father-in-law, or mother-in-law.
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