follows: If she listens to him, but does not manifest to him in any way her own intentions, he
should then try to gain her over by means of a go-between. If she meets him once, and again
comes to meet him better dressed than before, or comes to him in some lonely place, he should
be certain that she is capable of being enjoyed by the use of a little force. A woman who lets a
man make up to her, but does not give herself up, even after a long time, should be considered
as a trifler in love, but owing to the fickleness of the human mind, even such a woman can be
conquered by always keeping up a close acquaintance with her. When a woman avoids the
attentions of a man, and on account of respect for him, and pride in herself, will not meet him or
approach him, she can be gained over with difficulty, either by endeavouring to keep on familiar
terms with her, or else by an exceedingly clever go-between. When a man makes up to a woman,
and she reproaches him with harsh words, she should be abandoned at once. When a woman
reproaches a man, but at the same time acts affectionately towards him, she should be made
love to in every way. A woman, who meets a man in lonely places, and puts up with the touch of
his foot, but pretends, on account of the indecision of her mind, not to be aware of it, should
be conquered by patience, and by continued efforts as follows: If she happens to go to sleep in
his vicinity he should put his left arm round her, and see when she awakes whether she repulses
him in reality, or only repulses him in such a way as if she was desirous of the same thing being
done to her again. And what is done by the arm can also be done by the foot. If the man
succeeds in this point he should embrace her more closely, and if she will not stand the embrace
and gets up, but behaves with him as usual the next day, he should consider then that she is not
unwilling to be enjoyed by him. If however she does not appear again, the man should try to get
over her by means of a go-between; and if, after having disappeared for some time, she again
appears, and behaves with him as usual, the man should then consider that she would not object
to be united with him. When a woman gives a man an opportunity, and makes her own love
manifest to him, he should proceed to enjoy her. And the signs of a woman manifesting her love
are these: She calls out to a man without being addressed by him in the first instance. She shows
herself to him in secret places. She speaks to him tremblingly and inarticulately. She has the
fingers of her hand, and the toes of her feet moistened with perspiration, and her face blooming
with delight. She occupies herself with shampooing his body and pressing his head. When
shampooing him she works with one hand only, and with the other she touches and embraces
parts of his body. She remains with both hands placed on his body motionless as if she had been
surprised by something, or was overcome by fatigue. She sometimes bends down her face upon
his thighs and, when asked to shampoo them does not manifest any unwillingness to do so. She
places one of her hands quite motionless on his body, and even though the man should press it
between two members of his body, she does not remove it for a long time. Lastly, when she has
resisted all the efforts of the man to gain her over, she returns to him next day to shampoo his
body as before. When a woman neither gives encouragement to a man, nor avoids him, but hides
herself and remains in some lonely place, she must be got at by means of the female servant
who may be near her. If when called by the man she acts in the same way, then she should be
gained over by means of a skilful go-between. But if she will have nothing to say to the man, he
should consider well about her before he begins any further attempts to gain her over.
Thus ends the examination of the state of a woman's mind.
A man should first get himself introduced to a woman, and then carry on a conversation with her.
He should give her hints of his love for her, and if he finds from her replies that she receives
these hints favourably, he should then set to work to gain her over without any fear. A woman
who shows her love by outward signs to the man at his first interview should be gained over very
easily. In the same way a lascivious woman, who when addressed in loving words replies openly
in words expressive of her love, should be considered to have been gained over at that very
moment. With regard to all women, whether they be wise, simple, or confiding, this rule is laid
down that those who make an open manifestation of their love are easily gained over.
Part 5, Chapter 4 : About the business of a Go-Between
IF a woman has manifested her love or desire, either by signs or by motions of the body, and is
afterwards rarely or never seen anywhere, or if a woman is met for the first time, the man should
get a go-between to approach her. Now the go-between, having wheedled herself into the
confidence of the woman by acting according to her disposition, should try to make her hate or
despise her husband by holding artful conversations with her, by telling her about medicines for
getting children, by talking to her about other people, by tales of various kinds, by stories about
the wives of other men, and by praising her beauty, wisdom, generosity and good nature, and
then saying to her: 'It is indeed a pity that you, who are so excellent a woman in every way,
should be possessed of a husband of this kind. Beautiful lady, he is not fit even to serve you.' The
go-between should further talk to the woman about the weakness of the passion of her husband,
hisjealousy, his roguery, his ingratitude, his aversion to enjoyments, his dullness, his meanness,
and all the other faults that he may have, and with which she may be acquainted. She should
particularly harp upon that fault or that failing by which the wife may appear to be the most
affected. If the wife be a deer woman, and the husband a hare man, then there would be no fault
in that direction, but in the event of his being a hare man, and she a mare woman or elephant
woman, then this fault should be pointed out to her. We are of opinion that when it is the first
affair of the woman, or when her love has only been very secretly shown, the man should then
secure and send to her a go-between, with whom she may be already acquainted, and in whom
she confides.
But to return to our subject. The go-between should tell the woman about the obedience and love
of the man, and as her confidence and affection increase, she should then explain to her the thing
to be accomplished in the following way. 'Hear this, Oh beautiful lady, that this man, born of a
good family, having seen you, has gone mad on your account. The poor young man, who is
tender by nature, has never been distressed in such a way before, and it is highly probable that
he will succumb under his present affliction, and experience the pains of death.' If the woman
listens with a favourable ear, then on the following day the go-between, having observed marks of
good spirits in her face, in her eyes, and in her manner of conversation, should again converse
with her on the subject of the man, and should tell her the stories as may be fitted for the
occasion. She should also describe to her the strength of the man, his talents, his skill in the
sixty-four sorts of enjoyments, his good looks, and his liaison with some praiseworthy woman, no
matter whether this last ever took place or not. In addition to this, the go-between should carefully
note the behaviour of the woman, which if favourable would be as follows: She would address her
with a smiling look, would seat herself close beside her, and ask her, 'Where have you been?
What have you been doing? Where did you dine? Where did you sleep? Where have you been
sitting?' Moreover, the woman would meet the go-between in lonely places and tell her stories
there, would yawn contemplatively, draw long sighs, give her presents, remember her on
occasions of festivals, dismiss her with a wish to see her again, and say to her jestingly, 'Oh, wellspeaking
woman, why do you speak these bad words to me?', would discourse on the sin of her
union with the man, would not tell her about any previous visits or conversations that she may
have had with him, but wish to be asked about these, and lastly would laugh at the man's
desire, but would not reproach him in any way. Thus ends the behaviour of the woman with the
go-between. When the woman manifests her love in the manner above described, the gobetween
should increase it by bringing to her love tokens from the man. But if the woman be
not acquainted with the man personally, the go-between should win her over by extolling and
praising his good qualities, and by telling stories about his love for her. When a man or woman
are not personally acquainted with each other, and have not shown each other any signs of
affection, the employment of a go-between is useless. Even though they be personally
unacquainted, but have shown each other signs of affection there is an occasion for the
employment of a go-between. We assert that a go between should be employed, provided they
are acquainted with each other, even though no signs of affection may have passed between
them. Also even though they may not be personally acquainted with each other, and may not
have shown each other any signs of affection, still they are both capable of placing confidence in
a go-between. Now the go-between should show the woman the presents, such as, the
perfumes, the flowers, and the rings which the man may have given to her for the sake of the
woman, and on these presents should be impressed the marks of the man's teeth, and nails, and
other signs. On the cloth that he may send he should draw with saffron both his hands joined
together as if in earnest entreaty. The go-between should also show to the woman ornamental
figures of various kinds cut in leaves, together with ear ornaments, and chaplets made of flowers
containing love letters expressive of the desire of the man, and she should cause her to send
affectionate presents to the man in return. After they have mutually accepted each other's
presents, then a meeting should be arranged between them on the faith of the go-between.
this meeting should take place at the time of going to the temple of a Deity, or on occasions of
fairs, garden parties, theatrical performances, marriages, sacrifices, festivals and funerals, as
also at the time of going to the river to bathe, or at times of natural calamities, fear of robbers or
hostile invasions of the country.
We are of opinion however that these meetings had better be brought about in the abodes of
female friends, mendicants, astrologers, and ascetics. But we decides that that place is only well
suited for the purpose which has proper means of ingress and egress, and where arrangements
have been made to prevent any accidental occurrence, and when a man who has once entered
the house can also leave it at the proper time without any disagreeable encounter. Now gobetweens
or female messengers are of the following different kinds:
A go-between who takes upon herself the whole burden of the business
A go-between who does only a limited part of the business
A go-between who is the bearer of a letter only
A go-between acting on her own account
The go-between of an innocent young woman
A wife serving as a go-between
A mute go-between
A go-between who acts the part of the wind
A woman who, having observed the mutual passion of a man and woman, brings them together
and arranges it by the power of her own intellect, such a one is called a go-between who takes
upon herself the whole burden of the business. This kind of go-between is chiefly employed when
the man and the woman are already acquainted with each other, and have conversed together,
and in such cases she is sent not only by the man (as is always done in all other cases) but by
the woman also. The above name is also given to a go-between who, perceiving that the man
and the woman are suited to each other, tries to bring about a union between them, even though
they be not-acquainted with each other.
A go-between who, perceiving that some part of the affair is already done, or that the advances
on the part of the man are already made, completes the rest of the business, is called a gobetween
who performs only a limited part of the business.
A go-between who simply carries messages between a man and a woman, who love each other,
but who cannot frequently meet, is called the bearer of a letter or message. This name is also
given to one who is sent by either of the lovers to acquaint either the one or the other with the
time and place of their meeting.
A woman who goes herself to a man, and tells him of her having enjoyed sexual union with him in
a dream, and expresses her anger at his wife having rebuked him for calling her by the name of
her rival instead of by her own name, and gives him something bearing the marks of her teeth
and nails and informs him that she knew she was formerly desired by him, and asks him privately
whether she or his wife is the best looking, such a person is called a woman who is a go-between
for herself. Now such a woman should be met and interviewed by the man in private and secretly.
The above name is also given to a woman who having made an agreement with some other
woman to act as her go-between, gains over the man to herself, by the means of making him
personally acquainted with herself, and thus causes the other woman to fail. The same applies to
a man who, acting as a go-between for another, and having no previous connection with the
woman, gains her over for himself, and thus causes the failure of the other man. A woman who
has gained the confidence of the innocent young wife of any man, and who has learned her
secrets without exercising any pressure on her mind, and found out from her how her husband
behaves to her, if this woman then teaches her the art of securing his favour, and decorates her
so as to show her love, and instructs her how and when to be angry, or to pretend to be so, and
then, having herself made marks of the nails and teeth on the body of the wife, gets the latter to
send for her husband to show these marks to him, and thus excite him for enjoyment, such is
called the go-between of an innocent young woman.
In such cases the man should send replies to his wife through the same woman. When a man
gets his wife to gain the confidence of a woman whom he wants to enjoy, and to call on her and
talk to her about the wisdom and ability of her husband, that wife is called a wife serving as a gobetween.
In this case the feelings of the woman with regard to the man should also be made
known through the wife. When any man sends a girl or a female servant to any woman under
some pretext or other, and places a letter in her bouquet of flowers, or in her ear ornaments, or
marks something about her with his teeth or nails, that girl or female servant is called a mute gobetween.
In this case the man should expect an answer from the woman through the same
person.
A person, who carries a message to a woman, which has a double meaning, or which relates to
some past transactions, or which is unintelligible to other people, is called a go-between who acts
the part of the wind. In this case the reply should be asked for through the same woman.
Thus end the different kinds of go-betweens.
A female astrologer, a female servant, a female beggar, or a female artist are well acquainted
with the business of a go-between, and very soon gain the confidence of other women. Any one
of them can raise enmity between any two persons if she wishes to do so, or extol the loveliness
of any woman that she wishes to praise, or describe the arts practiced by other women in sexual
union. They can also speak highly of the love of a man, of his skill in sexual enjoyment, and of the
desire of other women, more beautiful even than the woman they are addressing, for him,
and explain the restraint under which he may be at home. Lastly a go-between can, by the
artfulness of her conversation, unite a woman with a man even though he may not have been
thought of by her, or may have been considered beyond her aspirations. She can also bring back
a man to a woman, who, owing to some cause or other, has separated himself from her.
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